SHINIFICATION

*These has been my way of coping with my unpleasant experienced regarding breakups. I found out that there is really no easy way to cure broken heart and shattered dreams . There is no quick solution either to free myself from emotional pain . However , God has been so good to me . I am now emotionally pain free . God has restored my wholeness by blessing me through my kids and by sending me an Angel . An angel who once was also in pain. My angel consoled me in my sorrow ., gave me courage when I fear ., fills up all the emptiness within me and loves me so greatly . To you my dear Christopher , I LOVE YOU SO MUCH , HONEY !

SHINIFICATION

♥ SHINIFICATION Is a way of helping yourself to move on through the healing process after a relationship breakup. It is the art of letting go of all the pains and turning it into a purposeful moments or goals.

The main goal of SHINIFICATION is to show us how to handle pain POSITIVELY in a way that helps us manage its effects and for us to live normally as possibly as we could.

There are some forms of SHINIFICATION :

1 ^._ VISUALIZATION : When breakup happens , take time to cry and grieve. When in pain , we usually see only the dark side of our life. We tend to overlook the “bright side” and forget that there is still something better out there for us. Try to think , analyze and evaluate what's best for you and your well being. Envision things positively whether or not your partner comes back to you. The breakup is just a part of your life and you still have the present and the future.

2 – SPIRITUAL DIRECTION : We all wish we have control over everything. We wish to be in control even in our intimate relationship with our partner. But we have to be anxious about our situation. We do not know if it was just a test from God or a punishment for something bad that we've done before. Though, we are in the moment of confusion , it is also the moment to be closer to God. GOD LOVES THE BROKEN HEARTED ! Have faith in Him. Spend more time in praying. Offer all your burdens unto Him and let Him carry you. Simply trust with all your heart. God will never forsake us. He doesn't want us to dwell into misery.

3 – AFFILIATION : Look and have a solid “support group” . Do not isolate yourself from the society. Do not shut yourself for this may cause you stress and tension which eventually could lead to DEPRESSION .Do not feel so miserable . Find some ways to meet old friends or have a new one. Get out of your world.

4 – TIME REGULATION : It has been said that “time heals all wounds” , but it's actually better to DEAL with your pain NOW and lessen your regrets by contemplating on your own healing. Be normal. Do your daily activities as it is . There should be no time for delays and procrastinations to your goal ( and that is to get over your breakup ).

5 – ADAPTATION : I believed that our environment has its positive forces that could help us live a quality life. After the breakup its all but natural to feel down. Spend some time with nature … watch the sunset , enjoy the trees … simple pleasures. But if you are a home buddy , You can just stay at home and have your house redecorated . Rearrange the furniture , repaint your bedroom. By doing this you have already started a new beginning for yourself and it indicates that you are NOW READY to face any possible changes in your life.

6 – SELF-INTEGRATION : Rebuild yourself. Do not look down on yourself. You have a value which no one could take from you. Do not lose your self worth , self esteem and self respect . Start rediscovering yourself. Develop your talents and skills once again. Start dreaming … without relying on your EX .

7 – REST : Whenever that painful event flashbacks at your mind just take a deep breath and relax . Do not try to fix everything at once. Take a rest from your anxieties and worries.